Begyndertræning, Deep Throat

Så hvordan var det nu, det var?

Engang fik jeg gag-reflekser, når Mandens lem kom for langt ind i munden. Smagen af sæd var også … noget, jeg en sjælden gang gjorde – mere for Hans skyld end for min egen.

Faktisk havde jeg store forbehold mod fellatio, fordi jeg engang ad flere omgange blev udsat for voldtægt på den måde. Og sådanne oplevelser sætter sine spor.

Så læste jeg Chelsea Girls 9 trin til Deep Throat … og tanken om at prøve det bundfældede sig.

Træningen begyndte og jeg oplevede, at under de rigtige betingelser, blev jeg fantastisk tændt! At jeg ligefrem kan længes efter at tage Hans lem i munden og så langt ned i halsen som overhovedet muligt – så længe som muligt og så tit som muligt. Kan man virkelig som kvinde blive næsten afhængig af DT? Jamen, jeg tror det efterhånden!

Jeg søger også på Deep Throat på nettets video-klip, bla. på http://www.fantasti.cc. Søgningen “facefuck” er også god

Der er mange pirrende video-clips – og nogle af dem er så også angiveligt “træning” af en uerfaren kvinde udi DT. Jeg har set videoer, hvor manden tilsyneladende tror, at kvinden bliver i stand til – og samtidig nyder – deep throat ved at blive tvunget til det uden forudgående træning. Som om mandens tanke er, at “der er jo plads i halsen og når andre kan, kan hun vel også.” Hvorefter den bare mases ned i halsen på hende. Synk den! Tag den så! Ellers holder han hende for næsen, indtil hun åbner munden på vid gab for at få luft.

Kære mænd. Sådan fungerer det ikke. Træningen er nødvendig. Det tager tid at lære og før tilvænningen er sket, er der ingen fornøjelse ved det. Med mindre selvfølgelig, at kvinden ønsker at blive tvunget til det. Men det er en helt anden snak.

Nu har jeg efterhånden gjort så meget reklame for DT på min blog, at det kan være, at nogle føler sig inspirede til at prøve det samme. Pludselig føler jeg så også et ansvar – for jeg skriver og har skrevet meget om, hvor fantastisk dejligt det er. Video-clips’ne har fået mig til at tænke, at jeg så også bør lægge vægt på, hvad der skulle til for mig, før det blev så fantastisk, som det er nu.

Så det er altså det, jeg udsætter dig for i dette (for) lange blog-indlæg. Bær over med mig.

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Jeg tager udgangspunkt i Chelsea Girls 9 trin og tilføjer mine egne kommentarer:

“1) An introduction: Deep-throating is a skill, like parallel parking or fire eating. Unlike either of those skills, however, you really can’t hurt yourself or any one else by deep-throating a cock. The thing to remember about deep-throating is that the worse thing that can happen is that you will puke.”

Opkast er ikke behageligt, men heller ikke farligt. Hvis det skulle ske, så tag det som en oplevelse. Og prøv så igen med lidt mere tålmodighed i træningen.

“2) Practice makes penetrating”

Træningen er basal og meget vigtig. Betragt det som en ekstrem-sport, som du må træne til for at blive i stand til at gøre det. Det kræver tålmodighed og kan tage et godt stykke tid.

Vi trænede ved at gøre det hver dag, så længe jeg kunne holde til det. Jeg tror, det lykkedes helt efter ca. en uge. Og alligevel taler vi næsten hver gang om, at denne gang var det da dybere,  end det plejer!

I starten var det vigtigt, at jeg lå på siden med hovedet på hans mave, så jeg havde fuld kontrol over situationen. Ved at tage Hans lem i munden og synke så langt ned, jeg kunne – lige til gag-refleksen netop kunne mærkes. Og så lade lemmet ligge dér, så længe jeg kunne. Helt stille, mens min hals vænnede sig til følelsen. Ud igen, lille pause og så på den igen. Så længe jeg kunne.

Senere kan andre stillinger afprøves. F.eks. liggende på ryggen med hovedet ud over kanten af sengen, ham på gulvet foran hovedet. På den måde kommer lemmet ind i munden i en vinkel, som gør det nemmere at åbne halsen. En anden god stilling er ham på knæ og dig på alle fire foran ham. Igen er halsen strakt ud i en vinkel, som hjælper til at åbne.

Sørg for, at lemmet er fugtigt. Slik ham eventuelt over hele skaftet – hvis det er fugtigt, glider det hele nemmere.

Som Chelsea Girl skriver: “Deep-throating is a test of limits. You are willfully and mindfully dismantling a basic human physical function, the gag reflex. It is natural that as you learn this skill that you will feel discomfort, that your eyes will tear, that things will feel frustrating, especially if you’ve never really thought about mastering your gag reflex before. Therefore, you need to be patient with yourself too.”

Hav tålmodighed med dig selv. Hvis Manden er utålmodig, anbefaler både Chelsea Girl og jeg, at du beder ham om at prøve at stikke en dildo helt ned i halsen, så kan han få en idé om, hvor nemt det er

“3) Find the space within: Take a moment and think about your mouth and throat. Now pull the base of your tongue at the back of your throat down, as you would if you were about to yawn. Think about making a big, round cave at the back of your throat as you kind of retract the base of your tongue.

Think about how it feels as your tongue begins to move, how you feel your throat open up, until you can almost feel pressure in your ears. Do it over and over again.

This action, my friend, is how you control your gag reflex.  When you have an object in your mouth and it presses against your soft palate, the movable muscle fibers sheathed in mucous membranes responsible for cutting off passage to the nasal cavity while swallowing, your natural response is to gag. However, if you can learn to create this space at the back of your throat, you are in essence learning to control your gag reflex.

If you’re interested in learning how to accept your lover’s cock down the back of your throat, the very first thing you need to do is learn how to control these muscles. And that means learning how to find the space within your throat. Practice when you’re out of bed. Get accustomed to the feeling, get the muscle memory, and then when you’re in bed or on your knees, you’ll have it down.”

Gabe-refleksen er helt rigtig. Sammen med synke-refleksen kan du bedre styre din gag-refleks. Det er netop derfor, træningen er så vigtig. Når lemmet ligger lige dér på grænsen til gag-refleks, har du muligheden for at afprøve mundstillingen og forskellige måder at bevæge din tunge. På den måde lærer du stille og roligt, hvordan det virker for dig.

“4) The spit is it: When I’m giving head, I’ll begin by any variety of ways—licking the tip of the cock and slowly letting it enter my mouth, avoiding the tip entirely and teasing around the shaft, starting with the taint and working my way up—it really depends on what interests me at the moment. However, I always start deep-throating the same way because my throat, like other parts of my anatomy, needs copious lube to accommodate the length and breadth of my lover’s cock.

The good news is this: you can always count on your throat to make its own lube. It’s called spit. When it comes to spit, your gag reflex is your best friend.

Our normal spit is wan, watery, pallid stuff. To deep-throat you need to find that good-quality, high-viscosity, ropy spit. And you will.

I do it by pressing my lover’s cock as far as it will just uncomfortably go in my mouth and resting there. I pause for 30-45 seconds, come up for air, lick and suck a little bit, and do it again. After a minute or so of this pressing, I get that really nice, thick, embarrassingly porn-starry spit.

The key to this spitty fount is the phrase “just uncomfortably go.” You want to feel a bit, just a bit, like you’re gagging. Your gagging here is a good thing because it creates that lover’s spit. If you’ve ever tried to fuck without proper lube, you know how futile and uncomfortable it is. Your throat, though naturally wet, is no exception to this dry rule. Take all the time you need to get those juices flowing.

No matter what you do, even if you never, ever get to deep-throat completely, this spit step is key because with this spit you can stroke your man with your hands as you suck. Moreover, creating this lubrication will help his cock slide in and out of your mouth with the most pleasurable friction for you both. If you learn nothing else, learn this trick: enter the cock, pause when slightly uncomfortable, let the spit flow, repeat.”

Altså … det er spyttet, som  gør det. Det er ikke den slags spyt, som du normalt kender – det er derimod en tyk, slimagtig, hvidlig form for spyt, som virker næsten som glidecreme. Om ikke andet kan du bruge spyttet til det

Spyttet dannes, når du provokerer din gag-refleks. Det betyder, at du – før du kan deep throate – først skal udfordre din hals på grænsen til det ubekvemmelige, så spyttet dannes som naturligt glidecreme. Brug det til hele hans lem. Smør ham ind i det – over det hele, så han glider let mellem dine læber.

Jeg synes efterhånden, at spyttet er meget sexet … vi har så mange gode oplevelser med det.

Når spyttet dannes i halsen, vil der sandsynligvis også løbe vand ud af dine øjne. Det er helt normalt! Det betyder ikke, at du græder – kun, at slimhinderne er på arbejde.

Det kan også løbe ud af næsen og i det hele taget skal I forberede jer på, at det kan blive lidt “messy”. Betragt det som en del af DT og som et slags bevis på, at kvinden er klar fysisk. At hun også er klar mentalt, er op til jer begge. Som Chelsea Girl måske ville ha’ skrevet: I er voksne mennesker. Find ud af det.

“5) Taking the plunge: Once I’ve gotten a nice pool of lubrication in my mouth, I’m ready to deep-throat. I should note that even when I’m playing by D/s rules, I make it known to my man that we will each have a much better time if he forces himself gently into my mouth. Once I’m warmed up, he can face fuck me until the cows come home (metaphorically. Literally, I’d find actual cows troubling), but he needs to respect the tender passage of my throat.

Hold the cock in your hand, and with your throat all warmed up by your high-viscosity spit, pull your tongue to the back of your throat to open it to him. Slowly, incrementally, guide him into your throat, thinking about pulling your tongue back and down.

If you feel comfy, pause and see how that feels. If you don’t, back off and try again when you feel like it. I find that when I’m ready, I can slide my man’s cock down the back of my throat and swallow around it, pulling him more deeply into my throat. I also find that at some point I can open my throat up even further and accommodate more of his phallus, usually until my nose is pressed against his pubic hair, or his testicles, depending on which direction I’m facing. But it takes time, every time, and I don’t rush it. (Unless I’m being face-fucked in a Dommy manner, and then it’s a different flavor of martini entirely.)

While I’m deep-throating, I imagine what my throat is doing. I concentrate on where the cock is in my mouth and throat, how my throat is adjusting to it, and how I can relax around it. I attribute this practice of visualization to my years of lifting weights and dancing—I feel like if I can see it, I can do it. Therefore, I try to be aware of what it is I’m doing with that cock down my throat, at least until the whole animalistic passion thing raises its shaggy head and then all cognitive process shuts down.

I would urge you to “see” it as you do it. Imagining what you’re doing with your throat will help give you a sense of control and a sense of power. Just remember that if you’re too uncomfortable, stop. If you’re having fun, rock on with your cocksucking, Honey; it’s all good.”

Jeg kan ikke sige det bedre eller tilføje yderligere her. Chelsea Girl har sagt det hele

Og dog. Når jeg ligger på siden med hovedet på hans mave og pikken helt nede i halsen, er det faktisk muligt at trække vejret samtidig. Det tilføjer yderligere en meget spændende dimension – for jeg behøver ikke at trække hovedet tilbage for at få luft. Han kan blive dernede, næsten så længe som han lyster – eller køre frem og tilbage over hals-snævringen uden at holde vejrtrækningspause. Det er kun i denne stilling, det kan lade sig gøre at trække vejret samtidig.

“6) Find the angle, Angel: Many women (and men) find it easiest to deep-throat by hanging their head off the bed and having the man stand in front of them, easing the cock into their throats. If it works for you, fine, but the real lesson here is that angle is everything. You can control the angle of the cock by holding it in your hand. I would suggest that until you’re entirely comfortable with the act, you take as much control as you need. Your man will be so deeply appreciative of your desire to accommodate him that he’ll let you take control, the remote, the contents of his wallet and the keys to his Chevy Malibu.

I can’t deep-throat every lover in every position. Some angles are just bad. And it depends a lot on the bend of my lover’s cock. Donny has a very straight cock with very little bend to it, which means that I’m best sucking him either on my back with a pillow under my head (which is awesome if he wants to fuck my face), or if I’m on top of him and can use my hand to push his cock into my throat.

Other, more bendy, lovers, I’ve found very good luck in being on all fours doggy-style in front of them as they kneeled before me. Still others worked best if they were standing. It really depends on the size, shape, configuration and angle of the dick to be sucked. Experiment. Find your best position.

Moreover, remember that even if you can’t deep-throat in the position you’re in, you are still giving your lover pleasure. Deep-throating is not the end-all and be-all in fellatio; it’s just one trick in your bag.”

Under den indledende træning er din kontrol over situationen vigtig. Her lærer du, hvordan det virker bedst for dig – hvad der er nemmest og mest pirrende. At bruge hånden til at styre vinklen er en god idé. Eksperimenter endelig med stillingerne.

Nu, hvor jeg har lært det, er det utroligt ophidsende ikke at bruge hænder til at styre. Hænderne kan bruges meget bedre andre steder på Hans krop

“7) Don’t be a one-trick pony: Deep-throating is great; I love doing it. It makes me godessy wet, and it makes me satisfied in a workman-like kind of way. It does not, however, always bring my lovers to orgasm. It’s just one of the things I can do in bed. And that means don’t feel like just because you’ve learned to sword-swallow your lover’s dick you have to do it until he comes. A lot of time, once my throat has opened up, I use a hand/mouth combo where I stroke my hand in conjunction with my mouth down the shaft of my lover’s cock, sweeping my hand down the base of his dick and around his balls with each stroke. I may end the stroke with my nose buried in his pubic hair, but it’s not there for very long.

Add your throat to everything else you know and love about cock sucking. You don’t have to go hands-free, you don’t have to suck cock like a porn star, you don’t have to suck it like your mouth is drawing a golfball through a bendy straw. You just need to find things you like to do to your lover that your lover likes. Let yourself play.

Experiment and see what comes up.”

Jeg er vild med deep throat sammen med Manden. Deep Throat har tilføjet et helt nyt og skønt element i vores sexliv og jeg vil ikke undvære det. Vi leger med det. Eksperimenterer, undersøger, afprøver. Efterhånden, som jeg er blevet tryg og tilvænnet, har Manden mere og mere taget hånd om situationen. Nu er vi nået dertil, hvor han tager mig … i min mund. Han kan aflæse, hvornår min strube er klar til ham og han er ikke bange for at tage mig fast og bestemt, når han ønsker at mærke stramningen i halsåbningen omkring sit lem og måske også komme i min mund.

Det sidste er sket et par gange nu. At han får udløsning dybt i min hals er noget af en udfordring og kræver også lidt tilvænning. Det er utroligt ophidsende at blive taget på den måde og jeg er vild med det – men jeg skal også lige blive tryg ved, at han rent faktisk får udløsning dybt i min hals.

“8) C’mon, c’mon: And now the potentially bad news: if you’re not an aficionado of swallowing your lover’s spunk, you are at a distinct disadvantage. Personally, I’ve never been a spitter. I just don’t understand not swallowing, but if you don’t enjoy swallowing, perhaps you and your lover can find some signal when he’s ready to come, something, for the love of all things holy, that is not a tap on the head. Figure it out. You’re adults.

Now the good news: if you are deep-throating when your man comes, it’s super easy to swallow. It’s just there and it just goes down. It’s a no-brainer. In fact, the only trouble I’ve ever had with swallowing was with a shorter-dicked lover who would come and it would go up my nasal passages.

That was less fun. Take it from me; you don’t want ejaculate shooting out your nose.

Anyone else, though, it was as easy as swallowing hot jets of liquid pie. Just not as tasty. Which brings up a point: have your man eat pineapple. It really does work. Ginger is good; asparagus is not. Wine, scotch and bourbon can be good; beer is not. The jizz of soda drinkers tastes like the soda of choice. The jizz of vegetarians tastes like fields. Strawberries are nice, when in season.

In other words, taste-wise, planning is a good thing. On the other hand, if he’s far enough down the back of your throat, you won’t even know.”

Med andre ord: De første gange han ønsker at komme i din hals, er det en god idé, at du er forberedt på det. Aftal eventuelt et tegn eller et ord, så du ved, at det er ved at ske og kan forberede dig på det.  Chelsea Girl skriver “for the love of all things holy, that is not a tap on the head” … og det tror jeg nu nok også, at jeg gerne ville være fri for

“9) Talk it up: Go ahead, afterward you’re done doing the voo-doo that you two do so well, have a blow-by-blow. Tell your lover what you were feeling. Let him lay cock-sucking laurels at your feet. Tell him what he did that worked—and didn’t work—for you. Let him sing your praises. Hug and kiss. Fuck. Whatever. Get close and enjoy, but be sure to include talk as part of that closeness.

And drink some water.

And do it again.”

Tal om det. Fortæl ham, hvad der virkede godt for dig og husk også dét, som ikke var så godt. Lyt til hans oplevelse og læg især mærke til, hvad der tændte ham.

At gøre det her … kræver tillid og samarbejde.

Drik noget vand. Og gør det så igen.

Træning gør mester.

God fornøjelse!

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Attila har også skrevet en manual i teknikken bag DT. Læs den her: BDSM for alle og Deep Throat. Tak til Attila for en rigtig god instruktion!

Thank you, Chelsea Girl, for your wonderful “9 Steps to Deep-Throating a Cock, Chelsea-Girl Style”. You’re a unique inspiration to us!